Two Qualities of a Martyr - Amazing Qualities to Have in a Husband

Two Qualities of a Martyr - Amazing Qualities to Have in a Husband

After the tragic events at the Islamic Center of San Diego, three men lost their lives trying to protect the teachers and children inside the school.

These men were fathers, husbands, and probably brothers.

But they also received the status of martyrdom — someone who lost their life in the cause of Islam or while protecting the community.

All over the news, the title of “shaheed” (martyr) is given out every day in places like Palestine, Sudan, Yemen, and countless other war-torn Muslim countries.

One would think there are no shuhada in the comforts of America. But these tragic events that unfolded in San Diego show us that, yes, there are men in America who would risk their lives to protect another Muslim.

Br. Amin, just by the nature of his job, chose every single day to put others before himself. He chose to protect others at the risk of losing his own life. And on the day he saw the two gunmen, he called in that there was an active shooter, and he lost his life in the process of protecting others.

Then for Br. Nader, it is said he heard the gunshots and ran toward the violence. He left the comfort of his home to go and protect those inside the school. Allahu Akbar.

Then there was Br. Mansour, who was known for his generosity and kindness.

Dying as a shaheed is something that Allah (swt) highly praises in the Qur’an. Allah (swt) describes the reward of dying as a shaheed as the following:

The Qualities of a Martyr

Let’s highlight two extremely important qualities that not only can be found in a martyr, but are also amazing qualities to look for in a husband, who through marriage becomes the protector of his wife and family.

The first quality that a shaheed has, and that can be seen in these three men, is that they very easily put others first. They are simply selfless individuals. Not just with their lives when there is a stray bullet, but in everyday affairs. A shaheed is someone who looks to be of service to others, those he knows and those he doesn’t know. He sees his role in life beyond himself and beyond his own personal needs.

This is a quality that women can look for and observe in a prospective spouse before committing to marriage.

The second quality of a shaheed is that he has full conviction that Allah (swt) is the ultimate Provider, Sustainer, and Protector of his family. Because in the case of these men, and in the case of all martyrs, there isn’t time to logically think about their own families. Their innate instinct is so deeply wired to put others first that, by default, they must have this level of trust ingrained within themselves.

The quality of being a shaheed is not one for us to gloss over lightly, because it requires deep faith, unwavering conviction, and complete commitment to Allah.

And that is exactly what these martyrs showcased — extreme conviction in Allah and an unwavering dedication to being of service to their community.

May Allah (swt) accept them as martyrs and grant their families beautiful patience until they are reunited with them in the afterlife. Ameen.

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I am Amaney, founder of Sacred Soulmates, dedicated to helping Muslim men and women build marriages that bring both joy and benefit to the ummah.

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