The Marriage Proposals That Tested My Faith

There were so many moments on my marriage journey where I was greeted with well-wishers who wanted to see me married.

My neighbor wanted me to consider her younger cousin, who she swore was the kindest person ever, yet she couldn't tell me if he prayed regularly or not.

An extended family member wanted me to consider someone she knew. Although he had a child from a previous relationship, she wasn't sure if I would consider him because he didn't have a college degree (apparently having a child in full custody shouldn't be an issue for someone like me).

And each and every time, those proposals would make me question: Is this what people thought I should marry? Is this what people thought was important to me in a partner? Are these the people I have to "settle" for?

All of these misaligned proposals continued to make me question my worth, whether I was asking for "too much" in a partner, and if I would ever find it.

And so I reached a point in my life and in my faith where I had to choose between believing what people thought I should marry or believing that Allah (swt) could grant me what I wanted in a spouse. There was no choosing both. I had to choose one path and stick to it.

If I chose to believe people, I would blindly follow what they thought was appropriate and a good fit for someone like me.

And if I chose to believe in what Allah (swt) could grant me, I would get everything I wanted, but I would be going against what people told me.

I chose to believe in Allah (swt) and in His promise.

He (swt) says about Himself:

"And Allah is Able to do all things."

No limits.

No fine print.

No asterisk saying you're being too picky.

"He is Able to do all things."

And that is what I ingrain in my clients: to believe in the promises of Allah (swt). To believe that the One who created you so uniquely also created a beautiful pair for you, just as unique.

That with Allah (swt), everything is possible.

If you choose to believe so.

If you would like to get started on your marriage journey today, reach out to me. I would love to help you get started.

If you are struggling to navigate your marriage journey and want guidance rooted in Islamic values, reach out to me.

I am Amaney, founder of Sacred Soulmates, dedicated to helping Muslim men and women build marriages that bring both joy and benefit to the ummah.

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